BDSM can be a way to spice up a sexual relationship, bringing some wild fetishes to life. For others, the practice provides them the chance to process pain while being in control of it. There are numerous BDSM punishments for couples to explore as you’ll soon find out in this article.
This article will provide a long list of BDSM punishments, as well as a guide on aftercare. BDSM punishments require letting your sub know what they did wrong and punishing them accordingly. Even if you’re a sub, this guide is the perfect gift for you and your dom. There are a vast array of BDSM slave punishments. Let’s go into detail on of the best ones.
Spanking
Spanking is the most popular amongst slave punishments BDSM. Get your sub on their knees and spank their ass, repeatedly. Instead of using your bare hand, you can try to find the best spanking paddle to help out.
There are professional options available for spanking paddles, but there are countless household options that work just as well. Some of the best options include spatulas and large cooking spoons. Really anything large and flat will do. Some people opt to build their own paddle from wood. Just be sure to sand the wood properly to avoid splinters.
Making Them Watch
Sometimes you don’t need to touch your sub to punish them for doing wrong. You can punish them by making them watch only. You can masturbate in front of them, while using their body to touch and kiss. Don’t actually sexually stimulate the sub’s gentials during this for maximum frustration.
Another option is to use sex toys yourself while making your sub stand by. Watching you feel pleasure will make your sub writhe in anticipation.
BDSM Candle Wax
Candle wax BDSM punishment is a risk-aware idea. It involves dripping wax from a candle onto your sub’s naked skin. The goal is to create a slight burning sensation on their skin. Besides that, colored candle wax can create colorful patterns on your sub. This needs to be done safely. If done wrong, candle wax punishment can cause severe burns, enough to require medical attention.
For best results, test the candle wax on yourself before using it on your sub to make sure it’s not too hot. Testing a spot like your forearm is best before going to more sensitive areas.
The Silent Treatment
Another slave punishment is silencing your sub. There are several ways to gag them. One is using a bar of soap to gag them by taping it into their mouth. Make the soap foam a bit to make it taste worse in their mouth but ensure that they don’t swallow. For safety’s sake, have clean water ready for your sub to rinse their mouth.
Ball gag is another means to keep your sub silent. Force the most uncomfortable one you can find on your sub for some hours. You should give them frequent breaks to relax their jaw. While punishing your sub for breaking your rule, you don’t want them to get into trouble with lockjaw or spasms. The best face strap-on and dildo mouth gags can come in handy here.
If a gag is not something you and your sub are comfortable with, you can just give them the silent treatment, especially if they like to communicate a lot. Ignoring them can hurt more than some physical punishments.
Edging
Edging is one of several femdom punishment ideas. Perhaps it’s something you’ve always been aware of and used to tease your partner a few times before. This time is about punishment, not pleasure. What you do is bring your sub to the brink of orgasm and abruptly leave them hanging. You can of course do this to a female partner as well, but it’s more commonly done by a femdom to a male.
Don’t forget to put him in handcuffs or tie his hands so he can’t touch himself. Otherwise, he will release himself from the torture, thus defeating the purpose of punishment. After you leave him hanging, come back after a few minutes to repeat the process.
Don’t for a second think edging is only for men; it can work on women too. If your sub is a woman, stimulate her clitoris or use a toy or vibrator to hit her G-spot and withdraw once you sense she’s getting close. Use one of the two methods because both can be too intense that you won’t be able to keep her on the edge. You’re punishing her, don’t give her that pleasure.
Publish Degradation
Public degradation can serve as slave punishment for your sub. Make them wear embarrassing clothes in public. They’ve got a color they dislike? Paint that color on their face. Do they hate socks? Make them wear ridiculous rainbow socks. Whatever you decide; just make them wear something so uncomfortable and embarrassing to them.
Besides making your sub wear embarrassing clothes in public, you can make them masturbate in public, where there are a lot of people. A movie theater is a perfect place for such punishment. A public park late in the night can also do. Try not to go overboard with it. Your goal is to punish them; not humiliate them, unless that’s what they want. Talk to your partner in advance about the various things that they want out of the scenario.
Sub Chastity Cage
You can use a chastity belt or penis cage to punish your male sub. Get him to wear the penis cage and let it take on him for a few hours. It must be worn safely. Before your sub wears a chastity cage, make them shave and clean their pubic area. Also, make them put the ring on first, use ice to shrink their penis, lube up, and slowly slide the cage on.
Your sub should secure the cage to the ring and padlock the cage. If there’s any case of extreme pain, the cage should be removed.
Aftercare for BDSM
You can’t ignore aftercare after your sub is done serving their punishment. The aftercare involves comforting your sub emotionally, mentally, and physically. Aftercare for physical punishment can include applying balm or ointment to affected body parts. And aftercare for mental and emotional punishments can include cuddling and providing a nice cold drink for rehydration.
