If you’re new to the practice of BDSM and are interested in trying bondage, ropes, and restraints without taking things too far, there are many options available to you. It’s best to try this type of play with a trusted partner, especially the first few times. This will ensure that you’re as comfortable as possible when you get started with your new games. There are also many different bondage techniques to choose from, so you can start small and work your way up to more elaborate games.
Spread Eagle
Making the genitals available for almost any type or sort of stimulation or penetration makes the Spread Eagle the all-time-favorite regarding the newbies and skilled ones alike. It will leave the breasts and vagina available for business and is well suited for lingerie or other outfits. While in this position, you could have your sub wear a corset, and tie them into a upper body or breast harness.
While an under-the-bed restraint system is ideal for the Spread Eagle position, it’s not necessary. You can tie your partner to the bed frame, bed posts, or even nearby doorknobs or furniture. Remember to be careful when choosing furniture, as the last thing you want is things tipping over and ruining the mood!
Frog Tie
The frog tie position is another exciting self-bondage position you won’t want to miss out on. It involves bending your leg fully at the knee, and tying just below your knee and just above your ankle to your thigh. This technique ensures that there’s significant variation in mobility and pose. Plus, this position restricts you from standing up.
The Mark
If you’re a beginner, the mark position is another hot option to consider. It basically leaves your sub at your mercy to do anything you want with them. The position requires the sub to lay on their back and open their legs to be humiliated. Then, their arms should go under their knees while their hands go outside their ankles in such a way that you can bind their wrists to their ankles.
You can do the binding with bondage tape or a rope although we recommend the former because it’s safer. We must also mention that this position is traditionally a guy being the dom but it can be flipped to make the dude watch as you play with yourself. No doubt, the mark pose is among the most exciting bondage tape positions.
Legs Up
You can trust the legs up position to put a damsel in distress. As the name suggests, it requires the subject to push their legs up. In this position, a spreader bar works wonders to restrain the sub. This bondage tool can be used to spread the subject’s ankles apart and keep them that way. The hands are then tied around the knees with a rope, thus allowing the legs to stay up.
However, the rope should not be raised too high to avoid putting the back of the neck under undue pressure. Like the damsel-in-distress position, the legs up pose is also not exactly comfortable and it projects the subject as completely helpless. In this position, the sub has a lot of freedom to struggle and reach multiple positions without the chance to escape.
Hogtie Position
The hogtie position is ideal for only advanced bondage players due to its complicated nature. If you and your partner are ready for advanced bondage play, get on with it. This position requires your partner to lie on their stomach before you get around to restraining them which is pretty tricky.
So, how do you go about the hogtie? Tie your partner’s wrists together at their back using a basic wrist tie. Also, tie their ankles together at their back using the same tie you used for the wrists. Then, tie the rope around the upper arms as well as the shoulder. Ensure that it’s not too tight to not compromise your partner’s safety.
Although the hogtie position is not the best option for penetration, it’s perfect for oral play. If you’re just about restraining the subject, you can put a ball gag in their mouth. Remember that this position puts heavy stress on the subject’s backs and shoulders, so ensure that there’s a quick exit plan before embarking on the bondage plan.
Safety is Important
Although it’s unlikely, sometimes urgent situations arise at the least convenient times. To ensure that you can always free your lover from bondage in the event of an emergency, keep a pair of safety-edged bandage scissors within arm’s reach. Also known as EMT scissors because their bent design helps them cut through clothes with less risk to people than ones, you can find them at various drugstores. As a bonus, they often slice through heavy-duty materials like metal and plastic.
Are they good to have on hand? Absolutely. Will you need to use them? Only on the rarest of occasions. The more likely worst-case scenario is that you’ll decide bondage isn’t for you, in which case you’re still learning about your sexuality—always a win. But on the bright side, you might discover a new thing that really turns you on, which is undeniably awesome.
